The Summer of Me took a turn down a different road; the things I had hoped to achieve physically, thwarted by health issues. Perhaps the barriers were raised because the roots of planning grew from negative soil. Soil in a field rife with self-judgment, and skewed views of the way things needed to be in order to be pleased with myself - if I could just be the weight I want to be; if I could be shape and size I want to be, things will be much better; I will feel better about Me.
Self, the all-knowing Mother, so calm around the bouncing, impatient child Ego, says in translucent tones, "No honey, this is not what you should be doing right now."
Impetuous child. She pouts, thinks she knows better and does it anyway.
It has been "settle down time" for a while. In it, gentle daily lessons and reminders of self-acceptance. Doing as I please in moderation, even though it is often accompanied by a certain unease; breathing into being with the transitory nature of now.
Soon, when I am confident of my health, I will return to the road I had started upon. I should take Self with me; she will be an invaluable guide and a steadying force in the company of a headlong kid.
Mother and Child; Self and Ego.
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
BritInterrupted
A car needs all its parts to work together to create successful propulsion. Our major parts, if we consider ourselves as a car, would be the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual. All of these aspects require a cohesion for us to function optimally.
My car has broken down, and sits on the side of an unknown road with two flat tires, and smoke billowing from the engine.
I tried to keep things going, push myself to reach my goals, to work toward an obligation later in the year, to keep up, keep going, achieve the goals, get out, get moving. It started out great; I was gung-ho, throwing myself into this activity and that, but I'm not a new model and will admit to not having had a tune-up in quite some time. Before long, my efforts began to sputter. Essentially I leapt into a road trip without checking my shit out first.
The physical, I have often thought, is a manifestation of the troubles on the inside, and if the current situation is any indication, I must be in quite a disarray.
I asked myself, actually asked myself with the view to getting a response, what I could do to heal? The word 'investigate' came to mind, meaning to sit in quiet dignity and go to source. I haven't been there in a long time; perhaps that is the root of healing. I sat in the darkened office at work, with the rumbles of trucks and reversing beeps outside, and meditated. I asked again, in that state of mind, what I could do to heal. Over and over. "What can I do to heal?" I threw the question out to the Universe and let it go, having faith that I would be given an answer at some point.
I could say that this part of me wasn't working properly, or the other part wasn't in sync, and I couldn't say when, how or even which one lost its footing. All I know is that it took a while and now here I am, the result of purposeful oblivion.
To return to my favorite horse analogy (because that's totally how I see myself)...this filly needs to stop racing and head out to a nice field to graze for a while (within caloric limits, of course)...and be at peace with the decision. Yes, I'm feeling like it's time to slow right down.
My car has broken down, and sits on the side of an unknown road with two flat tires, and smoke billowing from the engine.
I tried to keep things going, push myself to reach my goals, to work toward an obligation later in the year, to keep up, keep going, achieve the goals, get out, get moving. It started out great; I was gung-ho, throwing myself into this activity and that, but I'm not a new model and will admit to not having had a tune-up in quite some time. Before long, my efforts began to sputter. Essentially I leapt into a road trip without checking my shit out first.
The physical, I have often thought, is a manifestation of the troubles on the inside, and if the current situation is any indication, I must be in quite a disarray.
I asked myself, actually asked myself with the view to getting a response, what I could do to heal? The word 'investigate' came to mind, meaning to sit in quiet dignity and go to source. I haven't been there in a long time; perhaps that is the root of healing. I sat in the darkened office at work, with the rumbles of trucks and reversing beeps outside, and meditated. I asked again, in that state of mind, what I could do to heal. Over and over. "What can I do to heal?" I threw the question out to the Universe and let it go, having faith that I would be given an answer at some point.
I could say that this part of me wasn't working properly, or the other part wasn't in sync, and I couldn't say when, how or even which one lost its footing. All I know is that it took a while and now here I am, the result of purposeful oblivion.
To return to my favorite horse analogy (because that's totally how I see myself)...this filly needs to stop racing and head out to a nice field to graze for a while (within caloric limits, of course)...and be at peace with the decision. Yes, I'm feeling like it's time to slow right down.
Wednesday, July 2, 2014
On what may be
Before my kids exit the car for camp every morning, I try to impart some wisdom. I understand that it's mostly a futile thing but I hope that once in a while, and maybe for a long while, some of what I say will stick.
"Thoughts are like flowers and weeds." I said yesterday, "The good, helpful thoughts are the flowers; the negative thoughts are the weeds. Your mind is like a garden, so be careful which plants you water, because what you water the most is what will grow. Would you prefer a mind full of beautiful flowers, or a mind full of weeds?" *crickets.....followed by mama's gone crazy shared look*
"Sometimes not getting what you want is a good thing because it can lead you to much better things you never knew were there." This one made my son eyeroll because he'd not been allowed to buy something on his electronic device half an hour earlier.
I've learned more about myself in the last two years than in all my years. Currently, I'm sitting with uncertainty, fear, worry, and frustration over things that I cannot control. In years gone by, I'd have been a bound slave to the dire link between thought and emotion. I know better now to locate the peaceful light inside, even if it feels like I'm parting a hedgerow that only serves to become thicker and snappier with each handful apart. I can see the light, I can feel the light, I can tap into it, and for a fleeting moment, peace settles in, right there in the middle of the writhing forest. Soon enough, and inevitably, the thoughts swoop in like crows with their chatter and tightness and the white birdlight flies away. The process ebbs and flows as I work throughout the days to breathe, center, tap in....breathe, center, tap in...
My lesson for the next few days will probably be about letting go of trying to control things. Keeping at least some part of me in touch with the light on the other side of the hedgerow while the rest of me is fretting about something that has an either/or outcome. And pulling from the experience, some words of wisdom for my kids who, one day, will appreciate the little seeds I've been planting. I hope.
"Thoughts are like flowers and weeds." I said yesterday, "The good, helpful thoughts are the flowers; the negative thoughts are the weeds. Your mind is like a garden, so be careful which plants you water, because what you water the most is what will grow. Would you prefer a mind full of beautiful flowers, or a mind full of weeds?" *crickets.....followed by mama's gone crazy shared look*
"Sometimes not getting what you want is a good thing because it can lead you to much better things you never knew were there." This one made my son eyeroll because he'd not been allowed to buy something on his electronic device half an hour earlier.
I've learned more about myself in the last two years than in all my years. Currently, I'm sitting with uncertainty, fear, worry, and frustration over things that I cannot control. In years gone by, I'd have been a bound slave to the dire link between thought and emotion. I know better now to locate the peaceful light inside, even if it feels like I'm parting a hedgerow that only serves to become thicker and snappier with each handful apart. I can see the light, I can feel the light, I can tap into it, and for a fleeting moment, peace settles in, right there in the middle of the writhing forest. Soon enough, and inevitably, the thoughts swoop in like crows with their chatter and tightness and the white birdlight flies away. The process ebbs and flows as I work throughout the days to breathe, center, tap in....breathe, center, tap in...
My lesson for the next few days will probably be about letting go of trying to control things. Keeping at least some part of me in touch with the light on the other side of the hedgerow while the rest of me is fretting about something that has an either/or outcome. And pulling from the experience, some words of wisdom for my kids who, one day, will appreciate the little seeds I've been planting. I hope.
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